My type is the Loyalist with a wing of a Defender. Now, THAT is a superhero name: The Loyalist Defender! I'd wear a giant A for Anxiety and I'd strike fear into villains with my panic attacks and list of anxieties! Also I'd try very hard to explain to them why rules and principles and 'fairness' works, and why if they'd just go back to school and get an honest, secure job they would see that being a villain is not what they really want to be, it won't bring them a solid future or predictability! I'd also ask if they ever have imaginary conversations to run their evil plans past their moms, friends, cousins, teachers, neighbours, garbagemen, etc., to predict reactions? They really should hire a trainer and read some healthy cooking magazines, because they should be able to outrun me....And as I arrest them and send them to jail I'd worry I'd overreacted, possibly have another panic attack, definitely lose sleep and forget to iron my super-cape for the next day. Oh, man! I'm going to fail all because of my own actions!
Whew. That's exhausting.
I'd learn of course that not everyone has that little imaginary committee to react to future plans, or need established external security systems so that they can make it through a day without a full on axiety episode.
What's your biggest fear? Do you even know what it is? I don't think I did until I started to look at these Enneagram types, study Integral Coaching methods and talk to people who are different than me, including clients who also wonder why they are the way they are. "Why do I like to help other people and give advice but I don't trust anyone to give me advice?" "Why do I appreciate compliments about my cooking but not about my body or my appearance?" "Why am I always so cheerful for everyone? I'm a cheerleader - except in some areas of my own life...?"
I can assure you you're not alon in those questions. I can assure you I have my own questions - man, I can be the Loyalist Defender! but I will still lose sleep about things at the end of the day.
The great news is that 1. you're normal! and 2. if you're struggling, there is help. Coaching is one option that could help. If you're interested in finding out more, please send me a message through this site - it's confidential, and I'm the only one who reads the messages. I will always reply.
Now you'll excuse me, the Loyalist Defender! has some worrying to do.